website .. for women..

feeds@yuku.com (Ange1961) — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 04:41:37 GMT

I frequent this website and find it very helpful... and interesting.. thought Id share it with you...
hope you find the reading there a good experience ..

http://www.womanlinks.com//content/section/5/36/

some specific articles I found interesting for those of you with limited time..

newbie What do you say to your kids?

feeds@yuku.com (gentlemantrying) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 22:18:26 GMT

Hi Everyone
(I'm new to discussions, period, not just to this board. So if I do/say anything that breaches etiquette... you know, bare with me).
I was searching the Internet for anything to do with support for partners/spouses of people with depression and really stunned by the lack of anything out there. When I found this board and started reading my jaw lay somewhere on the floor -- the shock of recognition. Its really an amazing relief. Thank you to everyone for...

I caved

feeds@yuku.com (EllieBean11) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 12:40:02 GMT

He called me and I answered. I don't know why I answered, but I did.

The first words out of his mouth were "I hate you." And whereas just there I should have hung up, I asked him why he hated me. He told me that it was because I was going to a wedding that night without him, that I made it impossible for him to go with me, that I was probably not going to go alone, that I was going to cheat on him with someone else.

Then he proceeded to tell me that he had...

Summer 2008 Newsletter

feeds@yuku.com (djcowbell) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 09:22:13 GMT

AmiQuebec.

Go to page 7, order a button...

I have a new imac (laptop) getting website set up soon

feeds@yuku.com (Marc) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 06:15:49 GMT

My CD Reissue company is making good progress. Plan on having website up soon. Company ia titled "Heritage Choice Productions".

Depressed or demoralised...

feeds@yuku.com (Dolbert) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 06:14:36 GMT

Am having a busy one today....

Here's something from jngl on another thread.

'The months before he left he created a virtual world for himself: chatting online, texting phone messages to new friends I have never met and playing video games online. Never much face to face contact or real chatting on the phone.

He also spends a lot of time on his own with his new found love of photography. That obsession I like and admire however. It allows him to express...

Basic Rights/Needs

feeds@yuku.com (BlueHold) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 06:12:25 GMT

Referring to the Basic Needs in a Relationship: This is especially timely in that DH and I had a real, long conversation last night and SO MANY of these elements were missing. My opinions and ideas were not respected, I told him two specific things that hurt me for which he did not apologize (they were just jokes, he said), and I'm the only one who sees these problems, he doesn't see that we have any problems. He told me I turn things around on him constantly and I've distanced...

Source or Reflector

feeds@yuku.com (Dolbert) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 04:21:52 GMT

I was on a lunchtime run yesterday, thinking things over as you do, wondering why I'm struggling to step up my affection for W, now that she is genuinely seeming to be improving - the 'is it me, am I contributing to her depression sort of feelings'. I'll ty and get it down without rambling

Wondering if I am more of a reflector of emotions than a source?

if I recieve warmth, affection, compliments, then I feel good and I will happily accept them and then...

Interesting Find "Basic Needs in Relationships"

feeds@yuku.com (lylymya) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 18:03:55 GMT

Basic Needs in Relationships

If you have been involved in emotionally abusive relationships, you may not have a clear idea of what a healthy relationship is like. Evna (1992) suggests the following as basic needs in a relationship for you and your partner: (I have changed this from "rights" to "needs" and made other small changes-...

Do people say this to be kind or is it true?

feeds@yuku.com (Ingrid555) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:23:14 GMT
I posted a while ago about how my best friend has gradually withdrawn from me,even behaved hurtfully since being diagnosed with depression/mood disorder.It's been months now,without any contact ,I've been getting on with other things ,I've left her to it ,thinking it's up to her to get in touch again if that's what she wants.Quite a few people have said that when people are ill/depressed,they withdraw from those they feel closest to.

The thing is,are people just...

Young wife trying to deal w/her husband's long-term depression--needs to hear more

feeds@yuku.com (she0102) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:11:39 GMT

I'm so sorry to hear all of you are dealing with what I'm going through. I am 26, married for almost 2 years to my high school sweetheart. We've been together over 8 years, and he was so in love with me when I met him I couldn't resist him, even though at that time he was depressed and I knew it. I was his savior then, and we were only 18 years old. I knew what I was getting into, but he was so good...

Should I be worried?

feeds@yuku.com (ally) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 09:00:54 GMT
Have I gotten so used to his depressive episodes (read 8+ Years in "My Story" thread for back story) that I think they're relatively normal and don't realize the gravity of the situation? I was doing some calculations last night and realized that my fnxbbsf (for-now-ex-boyfriend but still friend) has most likely been dealing with depression for the past 22 years, undiagnosed, untreated. In stepping back and looking at it, I also realized that while his behavior toward me has...

Still in the relationship or not?

feeds@yuku.com (SeekShelter) — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 19:06:24 GMT
How many of you are still married? I do realize there are valid reassons for leaving, like abuse, but it just seems to me that most here are divorced or living apart (physically).

Music. Friend or Foe?

feeds@yuku.com (Hallowground) — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 15:18:19 GMT
I was just wondering if anyone finds themselves listening to music that makes them feel worse?

8+ years

feeds@yuku.com (ally) — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 14:05:28 GMT

I am actually very heartened now to find that this is not such an uncommon story, that my (for-right-now) ex-boyfriend does still love me, and most of all that he really is the good and noble person I have all along believed he is.
A little backstory: we dated for 7 years, off and on, during which we went through all the trials common to depression sufferers and their partners. A year and a half ago, we broke up, then he dated some other girl, then as soon as that fell apart, he...

Please help..I am Scared

feeds@yuku.com (faith4us) — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 11:23:18 GMT
My husband was hospitalized and recently diagnosed with major depression in May 2008. Since then he has been through 3 weeks of day treatment and individual sessions. We have two children (6 and 4). Since being released from the hospital he moved into his parent's house and has come "home" as he feels like it. He has all the classic symptons: no feeling towards me, he respects me, I am his friend, our home is not his home anymore, and he doesn't know when he will be...

4th of july weekend plans??????????????????

feeds@yuku.com (justmelynne) — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 08:11:22 GMT
just heading out friday morning to my sisters 2nd home on the lake...it's only about a 2 1/2 hour drive....unlike when i was younger and the cottage was 4 to 4 1/2 and ALWAYS heavey traffic!!!!! there will be a total of 10 of us....thanksfully 5 people backed out, because that would of been crazy....PLUS 3 BIG dogs and a cat!!!!!

we will swim, lay in the sun, go boating, eat tons of good food and drink (of course drink!!!!) lots of bon fires on the beach!!!! just a big...

I may have posted this in the wrong place originally?

feeds@yuku.com (qt3) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 20:11:01 GMT
http://depressionfalloutmessageboard.yuku.com/topic/3461

How I overcame my depression

feeds@yuku.com (qt3) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 20:00:25 GMT
After years on meds I joined a CBT group and in a matter of several months turned my life around. We read the book Been There, Done That? Do This! by Sam Obitz and the simple thought countering exercise known as the TEA form puts you in control of your anxiety rather than the anxiety being in control. It teaches you to leave your worries behind and live in the present. If you really want to take your life back give CBT a try!

Question:

feeds@yuku.com (fangio1208) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 16:44:28 GMT

Hi, I haven't posted in awhile. Have a wife who struggles with bipolar. Things are somewhat stable. You have your good and bad days.

I have one question that I struggle with: Why is advice given to avoid arguments with a BI/D spouse? I have been given advice by various professionals to avoid/temper any exchange of touchy subjects. If she get's upset/argumentative leave the room.

All good advice ... but she is...

Depression Fallout Message Board

website .. for women..

newbie What do you say to your kids?

I caved

Summer 2008 Newsletter

I have a new imac (laptop) getting website set up soon

Depressed or demoralised...

Basic Rights/Needs

Source or Reflector

Interesting Find "Basic Needs in Relationships"

Do people say this to be kind or is it true?

Young wife trying to deal w/her husband's long-term depression--needs to hear more

Should I be worried?

Still in the relationship or not?

Music. Friend or Foe?

8+ years

Please help..I am Scared

4th of july weekend plans??????????????????

I may have posted this in the wrong place originally?

How I overcame my depression

Question: