website .. for women..

feeds@yuku.com (Ange1961) — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 04:41:37 GMT

I frequent this website and find it very helpful... and interesting.. thought Id share it with you...
hope you find the reading there a good experience ..

http://www.womanlinks.com//content/section/5/36/

some specific articles I found interesting for those of you with limited time..

newbie What do you say to your kids?

feeds@yuku.com (gentlemantrying) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 22:18:26 GMT

Hi Everyone
(I'm new to discussions, period, not just to this board. So if I do/say anything that breaches etiquette... you know, bare with me).
I was searching the Internet for anything to do with support for partners/spouses of people with depression and really stunned by the lack of anything out there. When I found this board and started reading my jaw lay somewhere on the floor -- the shock of recognition. Its really an amazing relief. Thank you to everyone for...

I caved

feeds@yuku.com (EllieBean11) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 12:40:02 GMT

He called me and I answered. I don't know why I answered, but I did.

The first words out of his mouth were "I hate you." And whereas just there I should have hung up, I asked him why he hated me. He told me that it was because I was going to a wedding that night without him, that I made it impossible for him to go with me, that I was probably not going to go alone, that I was going to cheat on him with someone else.

Then he proceeded to tell me that he had...

Summer 2008 Newsletter

feeds@yuku.com (djcowbell) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 09:22:13 GMT

AmiQuebec.

Go to page 7, order a button...

Depressed or demoralised...

feeds@yuku.com (Dolbert) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 06:14:36 GMT

Am having a busy one today....

Here's something from jngl on another thread.

'The months before he left he created a virtual world for himself: chatting online, texting phone messages to new friends I have never met and playing video games online. Never much face to face contact or real chatting on the phone.

He also spends a lot of time on his own with his new found love of photography. That obsession I like and admire however. It allows him to express...

Basic Rights/Needs

feeds@yuku.com (BlueHold) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 06:12:25 GMT

Referring to the Basic Needs in a Relationship: This is especially timely in that DH and I had a real, long conversation last night and SO MANY of these elements were missing. My opinions and ideas were not respected, I told him two specific things that hurt me for which he did not apologize (they were just jokes, he said), and I'm the only one who sees these problems, he doesn't see that we have any problems. He told me I turn things around on him constantly and I've distanced...

Source or Reflector

feeds@yuku.com (Dolbert) — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 04:21:52 GMT

I was on a lunchtime run yesterday, thinking things over as you do, wondering why I'm struggling to step up my affection for W, now that she is genuinely seeming to be improving - the 'is it me, am I contributing to her depression sort of feelings'. I'll ty and get it down without rambling

Wondering if I am more of a reflector of emotions than a source?

if I recieve warmth, affection, compliments, then I feel good and I will happily accept them and then...

Interesting Find "Basic Needs in Relationships"

feeds@yuku.com (lylymya) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 18:03:55 GMT

Basic Needs in Relationships

If you have been involved in emotionally abusive relationships, you may not have a clear idea of what a healthy relationship is like. Evna (1992) suggests the following as basic needs in a relationship for you and your partner: (I have changed this from "rights" to "needs" and made other small changes-...

Do people say this to be kind or is it true?

feeds@yuku.com (Ingrid555) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:23:14 GMT
I posted a while ago about how my best friend has gradually withdrawn from me,even behaved hurtfully since being diagnosed with depression/mood disorder.It's been months now,without any contact ,I've been getting on with other things ,I've left her to it ,thinking it's up to her to get in touch again if that's what she wants.Quite a few people have said that when people are ill/depressed,they withdraw from those they feel closest to.

The thing is,are people just...

Should I be worried?

feeds@yuku.com (ally) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 09:00:54 GMT
Have I gotten so used to his depressive episodes (read 8+ Years in "My Story" thread for back story) that I think they're relatively normal and don't realize the gravity of the situation? I was doing some calculations last night and realized that my fnxbbsf (for-now-ex-boyfriend but still friend) has most likely been dealing with depression for the past 22 years, undiagnosed, untreated. In stepping back and looking at it, I also realized that while his behavior toward me has...

Still in the relationship or not?

feeds@yuku.com (SeekShelter) — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 19:06:24 GMT
How many of you are still married? I do realize there are valid reassons for leaving, like abuse, but it just seems to me that most here are divorced or living apart (physically).

Music. Friend or Foe?

feeds@yuku.com (Hallowground) — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 15:18:19 GMT
I was just wondering if anyone finds themselves listening to music that makes them feel worse?

Question:

feeds@yuku.com (fangio1208) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 16:44:28 GMT

Hi, I haven't posted in awhile. Have a wife who struggles with bipolar. Things are somewhat stable. You have your good and bad days.

I have one question that I struggle with: Why is advice given to avoid arguments with a BI/D spouse? I have been given advice by various professionals to avoid/temper any exchange of touchy subjects. If she get's upset/argumentative leave the room.

All good advice ... but she is...

How do you deal with the segregation while trying to build intimacy?

feeds@yuku.com (lylymya) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 10:05:25 GMT
My DH and I have been making slow, but steady progress with our relationship. He is trying to open up about what he is doing in his life (we are separated) because he knows I need his honesty to continue in this relationship, but for me it is sometimes a double edged sword. I want him to be honest and share with me what he is doing in his life, but it also makes me very jealous at times. Its still so hard sometimes to understand how he can go hang out with family and friends, but...

Setting boundaries - examples

feeds@yuku.com (howtohelp) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 08:35:24 GMT

Hi all-
I am setting a therapy appointment with my husband and I to work on some of our issues and possibly set some boundaries. Our ongoing issue is his D and how that affects his ability and desire to work. I have held back too much of myself in the last 4 years and it's time for me to stand up for myself. I do not think that I have much more to give and we need to make some changes.

Has anyone set boundaries with their...

hate this

feeds@yuku.com (sadparent) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 07:00:27 GMT

I tried to go for a walk after being up since 2 . I walk I think i obsess. I was hoping writing on this website would help but I still am replaying things in my mind and beating myself up. I think this is my life forever. I will put on a happy face when possible but spend my nights awake and freaking out and crying.
i have to decide on maybe a new job and I don't trust my judgement at all . I wish I made a decision and it was the right one. MY Dr has competion so he is...

In praise of exercise machines

feeds@yuku.com (Gorsepetal) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 03:27:41 GMT
My fiance is way better since he's started a whole new regime - therapy, meds, CBT and exercise - and I thought I'd share something useful.

They say that exercise can be very effective in combating depression (if the depressive will actually exercise, which is of course by no means certain). I've seen it have an amazing effect. My fiance was severely depressed, and exercise alone didn't cut it, but I've seen him clamber onto the machine in full depressive mode,...

The meds are making things worse?!

feeds@yuku.com (cruzwriter) — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 16:16:34 GMT
Things have been going well with my DH and I. He's learned so much from CBT and using it well. And we have been a team through all this stuff now. But...he started the meds recently, so that he won't have to struggle with the ups and downs of his emotions and anger and anxiousness. But now he's tired and sleeping most of the day. And he's feeling really sad again and distant. And I hadn't seen that in awhile. Is this supposed to be this way? I'm afraid the meds are...

Allowing ALL feelings

feeds@yuku.com (k8ydeer) — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 11:21:16 GMT
It has been four months now since things have broken up with the SO. I have observed my no contact rule since then and moved on. I can still feel the aftermath of this emotionally an verbally abusive relationship. I am still healing. I know that the person I have loved is dead and even though I have tried to get through to him, his zombie self wouldn't let me.

There was a time when it was easy for me to move on because I didn't allow myself to think about him at all....

can't stop the thoughts -want relief

feeds@yuku.com (sadparent) — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 05:18:26 GMT
once again -another fitfull night of not sleeping i all asleep with the Tv on trying to block my own thoughts , only to be woken up with worries on my mind. It is so hard to explain. I have the same thoughts over and over. I what if decision, wishing we had done something Else. Maybe then my daughter would be happy She goes though periods of crying and being upset and she won't talk about it or when she does it doesn't make sense like she is making stuff up and it isn't...

General Discussion

website .. for women..

newbie What do you say to your kids?

I caved

Summer 2008 Newsletter

Depressed or demoralised...

Basic Rights/Needs

Source or Reflector

Interesting Find "Basic Needs in Relationships"

Do people say this to be kind or is it true?

Should I be worried?

Still in the relationship or not?

Music. Friend or Foe?

Question:

How do you deal with the segregation while trying to build intimacy?

Setting boundaries - examples

hate this

In praise of exercise machines

The meds are making things worse?!

Allowing ALL feelings

can't stop the thoughts -want relief