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feeds@yuku.com (doggiemou) — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 05:25:12 GMT

Making mistakes and needing some sound advice...

feeds@yuku.com (jessabelle) — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 00:13:23 GMT

For the past month I have been telling my BF to get off his ass to seek employment, to start some kind of hobby, join a group and possibly get a gym membership... Looking over the past few years, however, I am beginning to wonder if what he should be seeking is a psychiatrist to help with depression. Two month ago he graduated from university. He was disappointed in his all around academic performance because two years in he became unhappy and his marks began to slide drastically. When we...

sounds familiar to you? please shed some light...

feeds@yuku.com (scopi) — Sat, 14 Jun 2008 07:18:31 GMT

Hi Anne and everyone, i have to say thanks god for having this board and lemme found it! It is important for me to know that i am not alone....my post is a bit long hope u dont' mind...
7 days ago someone i fell in love with for a year told me it's time to call an end to our relationship. i was shocked and devastated cos just one week ago he has told me our grateful to have me in his life and all out of the sudden he said he does not love me. believe it or not, it has been...

To Anne from Purplegirl

feeds@yuku.com (Purplegirl) — Fri, 13 Jun 2008 16:25:58 GMT

Anne,
Please read my post on the "just checking in" board. I definitely did not expect this. I just want you to know how important you, your board, your books, and your advice have been to me over the years. I'm here again.....in need of your support...unfortunately.

Purp

Advice desperately needed

feeds@yuku.com (emarie2008) — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 22:43:15 GMT

Hi Anne. I read your Depression Fallout book and loved it. It hits very close to home.

I believe that my SO of 20 years and father of my two children is severely depressed, among possible other disorders. Our daughter has dysthemic disorder and he has many of the same symptoms that she has. I believe he may have been mildly depressed all or most of his life. Almost six years ago his father died and I noticed a change in him, but it was subtle. In November 2006, he wanted to...

So lost

feeds@yuku.com (KLFG) — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 23:12:06 GMT

Anne- My husband of 17 yrs. has been struggling with very mild depression for a few years, but in the past 3 years, it and anxiety have really hit hard. The anxiety is absolutely out of control, in spite of the medication he's on. He can barely get out of bed in the morning, struggles through the day at work & comes home and falls apart. He literally paces up and down the main hallway and walks around & around the kitchen or lays on the couch when he's home. He is detatched...

Count Down is On...again

feeds@yuku.com (Hope2007) — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 20:58:44 GMT

Hi Anne -
I am not sure why I am even posting this question, I guess because I've had a bad couple of days, felling lonely and missing DH. To give you a quick summary, I have been separated from DH for almost a year now, we were suppose to go thru with the divorce and have postponed 3 times. Every time its been because DH has had a meltdown and asks me to hold off. This last time, he asked me to go to his T with him, that T would help us with marriage counseling. Well, 5 sessions...

books for the depressed to read

feeds@yuku.com (dixon454) — Wed, 28 May 2008 11:36:17 GMT

Anne, hope you could suggest to me a book that my depressed wife could read to help her understand what she is feeling and what we are going through and maybe some stragies for her to get better? She finally the other day admited that something was wrong with her{i have posted the full story on the general discussion form] That some type of book might help her out a bit. Thanks, you been such a great help to me.

confused... HELP!

feeds@yuku.com (sparkle311) — Mon, 26 May 2008 15:28:52 GMT

Hi. I just started reading your book Depression Fallout yesterday, after my husband fell into another of his depressed and uncommunicative funks. I had actually bought your book a few months ago, during a similar situation, but it seemed to blow over, and I hoped that maybe everything was finally ok. Just me being hopeful. I knew deep down that that wasn't the case though.

Let me start by stating that I love my husband with all my heart. Our relationship started back in...

During relationship councelling.....

feeds@yuku.com (nzjulie) — Mon, 26 May 2008 01:59:28 GMT

with a partner/spouse who has successfully had pychotherapy and medications etc....and is on the way up/or out of dysthemia....would your opinion with councelling over repairing the relationship be to start off where there is Only contact at the therapists office once a week or do you believe that its also better to start seeing each other romantically as well....
its a question of feeling safe really....and who needs more security maybe?? I guess what I am wondering is if we get to that...

marriage therapy making things worse!!!!!

feeds@yuku.com (dixon454) — Thu, 22 May 2008 17:20:18 GMT

Today my wife and me had appt. with marriage therapist, turned out real bad. By the end of our hour t was pretty much suggesting divorce.I brought up the fact that i believed that alot of my wifes feeling may have been coming from depression which she has been being treated with by another t. Sadly in the end t really made me and my wife believe must just be us not depression.therapist said she was going to contact my dw t to talk to her about us and my wife i think she might be wanting to...

what is the best course of action

feeds@yuku.com (dixon454) — Mon, 19 May 2008 12:22:41 GMT

My question is should i be really let my wife who is depressed know how i am feeling about her or will this cause more guilt for her being she does not believe she is still in love with me or even attracted to me anymore. My wife has terrible self esteem[always has] her birthday is coming up in a few weeks and she broke down crying the other night that she has just started feeling old, she has lately been very tired and she said she sees younger girls and just wants her teenage body back,...

can it be depression

feeds@yuku.com (dixon454) — Thu, 15 May 2008 16:53:16 GMT

Anne please help-does depression make people sincerely believe things that might have been untrue about the past. My dw says she is not attracted to me and has not been even before we even got married, which was 9 years ago. Once she seemed to love kissing and hugging me, now she constantly pulls away.Does not seem to care if we get a divorce or not, except for our two kids. She says she will be fine without me.She is seeing therapist, was on effxor for two weeks now on celexa and klonopin...

Where to start?

feeds@yuku.com (bebe78) — Tue, 06 May 2008 15:29:20 GMT

Hi Anne,

I'm 29 and about a year and a half ago I moved to a state about 600 miles away from my family. I'm very happy, newly engaged, and enjoying my life here. Although I miss my family, I feel like I have begun a new chapter in my life and I'm so excited about it.

Last week my mother informed me that my father had experience a mental breakdown. He was saying frightening things and she feared he may try to hurt himself, so she rushed him to the hospital....

What goes on in the abused person?

feeds@yuku.com (k8ydeer) — Tue, 06 May 2008 04:58:36 GMT

Hi Anne,

I was finally able to move on from my relationship with a depressed SO. It included verbal and emotional abuse, lots of manipulation and even more lying and cheating. Moving on from it was one of the hardest things I have ever been through. I nearly allowed this man to destroy me.
I can say that I have no intention to allow my ex into my life again under any circumstances and in any capacity. Being on my own for about two months now and then finding somebody has opened...

In Need of Direction

feeds@yuku.com (driventodistraction) — Sun, 04 May 2008 00:12:50 GMT

Hi Anne,

Before I ask my question I want to tell you what a huge help "Depression Fallout" was to me after my husband was diagnosed with depression. Your book preserved my sanity because my husband had so many classic symptoms yet I didn't know what depression or depression fallout looked like. Thank you.

I have been married for 15 years and my husband started showing signs of what I believe is called "male covert" depression 4 years ago. At...

newbie needs help

feeds@yuku.com (Roland1914) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:44:37 GMT

I have been with my wife for seven years, she has been diagnosed bipolar and has had ECT treatment, she hasn't taken her medican for over a year she didnt like the way she felt and the weight gain, so the last year she has been better then when she was on her pills at times, but this is are second seperation in the last year, she says she doesnt know who she is and she needs to work on herself, but through all...

Pressure

feeds@yuku.com (bailey714) — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 17:14:11 GMT

Hi Anne,

I posted this on the main message board but also to you because you have been a real help to me and maybe you can help explain what I may be going through too.

Ok so I will catch you up. My ex wife and I split three years ago after she was diagnosed with depression and chose not to continue our marriage. We were married for a short time and since our separation I have been doing really well for myself. I have completed graduate school brought a place of...

How to Help

feeds@yuku.com (teacherforever) — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 22:42:04 GMT

Dear Anne,
I have spent the last six months reading posts on several sites to find someone with a similar situation that could offer some advice. I am here tonight to tell a little of our story and see if you can give me answers to a few questions.
First, I have lost two sisters in the last 15 months. The first was to a suicide as a result of being addicted to pain medication and being bipolar. She was in treatment and on medication. It was not her first attempt. She left...

living with someone who is depressed

feeds@yuku.com (jayh144) — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 20:19:17 GMT

Or rather in my case not at the moment ,my best friend who house shares has been off work with depression but has just started back again-he has been at his cousins for the last month. I just find it strange that tonight he called me just as he had finished work to say it had been busy etc and was walking to get a bus to go to his cousins-he has to walk right past the house and yet didnt even pop in to say hi.Is this (normal) in depressed people ? or am I just being used(which is the way i...