My Story

Young wife trying to deal w/her husband's long-term depression--needs to hear more

feeds@yuku.com (she0102) — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:11:39 GMT

I'm so sorry to hear all of you are dealing with what I'm going through. I am 26, married for almost 2 years to my high school sweetheart. We've been together over 8 years, and he was so in love with me when I met him I couldn't resist him, even though at that time he was depressed and I knew it. I was his savior then, and we were only 18 years old. I knew what I was getting into, but he was so good...

8+ years

feeds@yuku.com (ally) — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 14:05:28 GMT

I am actually very heartened now to find that this is not such an uncommon story, that my (for-right-now) ex-boyfriend does still love me, and most of all that he really is the good and noble person I have all along believed he is.
A little backstory: we dated for 7 years, off and on, during which we went through all the trials common to depression sufferers and their partners. A year and a half ago, we broke up, then he dated some other girl, then as soon as that fell apart, he...

Please help..I am Scared

feeds@yuku.com (faith4us) — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 11:23:18 GMT

My husband was hospitalized and recently diagnosed with major depression in May 2008. Since then he has been through 3 weeks of day treatment and individual sessions. We have two children (6 and 4). Since being released from the hospital he moved into his parent's house and has come "home" as he feels like it. He has all the classic symptons: no feeling towards me, he respects me, I am his friend, our home is not his home anymore, and he doesn't know when he will be...

How I overcame my depression

feeds@yuku.com (qt3) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 20:00:25 GMT

After years on meds I joined a CBT group and in a matter of several months turned my life around. We read the book Been There, Done That? Do This! by Sam Obitz and the simple thought countering exercise known as the TEA form puts you in control of your anxiety rather than the anxiety being in control. It teaches you to leave your worries behind and live in the present. If you really want to take your life back give CBT a try!

Im not good with titles sorry

feeds@yuku.com (Hallowground) — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 21:04:32 GMT

Hello, my name is Joshua. I am a 22 year old male. To tell you the truth im not very good at writing. I havent told my story before either but here it goes. Just bear with me ok?

First off I guess I should tell you that I am adopted. Somehow I think it plays a roll in my life...anyway. Now I have found out that m biological parents were both suffers from manic depression or some such condition. They both were involved in substance abuse of some kind. Now I drink. Often times to the...

OUT OF CONTROL HUSBAND....

feeds@yuku.com (PDXBlues) — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 18:10:36 GMT

Hello.

I am new to this forum and new to depression. I feel pretty lost considering my husband has been diagnosed with depression and social anxiety disorder. Things seem a bit out of control right now and I am seeking some advice on how to best approach this new dimension in my life. I should give the specifics first:

* My husband is on meds and seeing a psych.
* He recognizes he has an illness and is doing all types of reading and education to learn more about his...

My story: 18 months +

feeds@yuku.com (BlueHold) — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 05:28:10 GMT

I'll start this story and add to it as I have time and emotional resources.

At the beginning of 2007 it was obvious that my DH was having serious issues--psychosomatic pain, always coinciding with important business meetings and/or changes. He went through what was probably an episode of D and was concurrently being mobbed by a colleague. Since then we have moved and around the time of the move I realized I couldn't go through this relationship as it was. I began to be...

Lost on Helping My Wife

feeds@yuku.com (blueraider93) — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 09:12:06 GMT

My wife is suffering tremendously from depression. It has been very tough for me and my step-son to handle. She is on medication and seeing a counselor but all she wants to do is sleep, be negative, and brash with everyone. She has lost many of her friends because of her negativity and brash in your face attitude. I have been trying to be as supportive as possible by doing as much as I can around the house such as helping do clothes, dishes, picking up and cleaning the house, lawn work,...

I may have to leave

feeds@yuku.com (Laurieann) — Sun, 15 Jun 2008 18:29:59 GMT

My husband was supposed to start this partial day program last week. He had spent three weeks in the psych ward for schizo-affective disorder. He decided that he didn't need it and signed himself out. The people there are giving him one more chance. He's supposed to go tomorrow. I told him if he can't follow the doctor's orders, than I'm leaving him. He is almost his old self again, but he still remains distant to me. I miss my husband and want him back. I hope...

worried

feeds@yuku.com (sam224) — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 17:07:30 GMT

My husband and I have been married for 13 years. He has had problems since I have known him with depression. He has the classic symptoms and 10 of the unofficial depression symptoms (selfish, picking fights so I will leave him alone, withdrawn, ect.) He is very compliant about getting help. He has been in a downward spiral that has left us miserable since Feb. His doctor doubled his cymbalta dose and he takes wellbutrin. She now wants to add Lithium. That drug scares me a little....

I don't know what to do!

feeds@yuku.com (Laurieann) — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 20:00:21 GMT

My husband has been diagnosed with schizo affective disorder. However, after all his family, friends, and four doctors telling him that he needs meds, he refuses to admit that he's ill or that he needs meds. He spent some time in the psychiatric ward because his paranoia had gotten really bad. He thought the police were after him, that lights were x-ray machines, etc. The hospital could only keep him for so long, so they let him come home. He still seems depressed, anxious, and...

Fighting dispair

feeds@yuku.com (SeekShelter) — Sun, 08 Jun 2008 07:38:45 GMT

Mornings are the worse for me. So much races through my mind. Married 30 years and so much I want to say but can't. Seeing all the stages in the book. Finally admitted I need help and saw a therapist for the first time. I'll share more later.

My mother went haywire

feeds@yuku.com (aussielouise) — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 11:26:58 GMT

Hi - I am an Australian. When we spell "Mom", we write it like this "Mum". So I hope you don't mind me spelling it like this.

THE ANNOUNCEMENT
I am 31 and married. My parents have been married for 31 years and my mother is 55 years old. About 18 months ago my mother and father came to spend a holiday with my husband and I. They took us out to dinner and my mother announced that she was having an affair.
My parents have always been very close, in...

NEW HERE...

feeds@yuku.com (gilbertvirginia) — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 09:01:49 GMT

...and what a remarkable community it is. I am still reeling from the all-too-familiar bombshell of a partner turning overnight and blaming me and our relationship for...everything. I have been up nights reading all the postings here and it has been a life-saver, to the extend that I firmly believe my partner is in the grips of an undiagnosed depression. There are too many striking similarities with other people's stories and his own history confirms so much.

I'm posting my...

my complicated story

feeds@yuku.com (Texaspeaches) — Mon, 02 Jun 2008 13:10:07 GMT

I've just finished reading both of Anne's books and found them to be some of the most helpful thoughts I've ever encountered on this journey with my husband! And since her books are so tied to this Message Board, I wanted to participate myself.

My husband suffers from Major Depression, recurrent type. However, he also suffers from Secondary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis, which is a grim prognosis to have. Additionally, he had a stroke 18 months ago, resulting in...

new and looking for answers

feeds@yuku.com (evabloom) — Tue, 27 May 2008 11:34:01 GMT

Hi - I put this on the general board, but it didn't get much response. Maybe more people will read it here. Here's my story. Apologies for its length. It seems a very common one, but I'd like to spell it all out and invite your comments. My H and I have been together for 16 years. We have 2 small children - didn't have children together until we'd been together 10 years. Very happy together - friends envious of our relationship. H has had various gloomy episodes through...

new to dealing with depression

feeds@yuku.com (chkme) — Mon, 26 May 2008 20:27:35 GMT

My family has had a hard year. Lost a child, then my husband's father committed suicide last summer, bringing to light some family depression issues. My husband had a major depressive episode after that, is on meds, and is better in a lot of ways. But this morning I was so low. I've been working full time to support our family and doing most household chores and watching our toddler son. This morning, my husband was supposed to watch our son while I worked. Well, after an hour of not...

How much to tell....

feeds@yuku.com (KC) — Sat, 24 May 2008 15:13:52 GMT

Hi, I'm KC.

I read the book depression fallout, in order to understand what had just happened to my marriage.

In a nutshell, low self esteem and midlife issues caused my wife to become depressed. The only thing that made her feel any better was using massive amounts of cocaine, and my wife became an addict. I was struggling to keep our life from exploding, accidentally enabling her outrageous behavior. When we were about bankrupt, she left me for another man. We...

constant reassurance...I'm drained

feeds@yuku.com (ate0z) — Wed, 21 May 2008 21:49:36 GMT

I know most people complain that their depressed loved one is cold, distant and withdrawn.

I have the opposite problem and feel like such a horrible person for even complaining!

My DH is terribly insecure and needs constant reassurance. He is constantly asking me whether I love him and whether I think about him during the day when I'm at work. This is constant...as in...every 5 minutes when we are together. Most of the time I think to myself that if he needs to hear...

I don't know what to do anymore.

feeds@yuku.com (yourmotherlastnight) — Mon, 12 May 2008 22:30:17 GMT

I just poured my heart and soul into writing my story here, and then I accidentally refreshed the page and it was all lost. I really did not need that. It feels like I'm back to square one with dealing with the whole entire problem.

My fiancee and I have been together for 3.5 years. She was diagnosed with depression after a little over 1 year. She is on antidepressants and has a therapist, whom she sees irregularly. She has been finding her therapist less...