Check out local affiliates at www.nami.org and www.dbsalliance.org. It's unlikely the affiliates will have friends and family support groups, but they may have "mixed" groups (go alone, not with your depressed bf) which would be better than nothing. Ask the affiliates if they can recommend a good therapist for you, and the real reason to attend the support group, if there is one, is to ask there as well. They are usually good sources of information.

Hope this helps,

Anne