Hi gike. Well, if he's still in the midst of a depressive episode, there's not going to be a lot that makes sense about his behavior. Someone made this point to me a while back when I questioned why my relationship with DBF was the part of his life that seemed axed when he was still carrying on with everything else.

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The other things that continue are not emotionally charged for him; they are things not so impacted by this disease


I have had to wrestle with the no-contact situation, and it is very hard. When I finally decided to make contact, which my DBF had said was fine to though I had not heard from him, it was the advice of my therapist, and many on this board, to only do so if I could let go of the outcome, meaning would it make me feel worse to initiate contact and get no reply back, vs. no attempt at all?

My concern is for you, in that your focus is so much on him, and perhaps not on yourself as it needs to be. I hope the dr. visit will be a good step in you taking care of you.

I'm sorry for your pain, I know it hurts.

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