i was just presented this exact scenario 2 days ago from my dbf (now ex as of yesterday). he just came out and said that he doesn't know if he's in love with me. for the most part, i feel that the d has clouded any sense of reality for him, including his feelings and emotions. when he gets very d, he uses these opportunities to search outside of our relationship for another woman to make him feel that "falling in love" feeling to try to prove to himself that he is alive and that maybe i'm just not the one he's supposed to be with...even though when he's not feeling so funky, he's talking about our future together and how we have the next 30-40 years to get this right.

personally, the other day was the first time i've ever heard from him that he loves me, he just might not be in love with me phrase. i chose to end the relationship. his affairs were bringing me down and from what i keep reading on this board, that no matter what, even if he's in therapy and taking meds, he'll still have "down" times. i feared too much that in those down times, he would seek out female company and i did not want to be part of that destructive cycle. as dbf said, some use alcohol and drugs, he uses women much in the same way. i care too much about myself to be worrying every day when his bad day was going to hit and how was he going to handle it. i'm worth more than that and deserve a whole hell of a lot better.

so back to your question, i would not want someone d or not, to stay with me if he felt...

Quote..."Not in-love defined
Not emotionally connected? This was lost some time in the past.
Dont care to share my day-to-day happenings/dreams/etc.
Not interested in her day-to-day happenings/dreams/etc.
Dont care to give her presents, small or large.
Not excited about being with her at the end of the day.
Would not care if she or I had an affair.
Is there ever such thing as a soul-mate? I do not feel we are soul mates."