I know that book and actually wrote about it in "My Story." Whenever I hear or think about this book my back stiffens and I feel sick. This is the book my dso's therapist gave him - helping him (it seemed to me) focus his depression on the relationship. When my dso told me that he had left therapy (because as he said the therapist had told him that he could not help him any furhter) it told me that he had reached a decision - stay or go. But he couldn't be the one to leave (since the house comes with his job) so, as I see it, he decided to work at getting me to leave, make it so bad that I wouldn't want to stay. And, partly that is what has happened, even though I still love him and would like to try to work things out - either to renew our relationship, perhaps in a new fashion or to an amicable split rather than an unilateral decision. I'm not saying the book is bad, in fact, I did look though it and it makes some good points that I'm sure I could apply to my own situation and feelings. It just seems to me to have been used, in my case, as a tool, a wedge between my dso and me.