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In me, yes, there are several different 'personalities', shall we say...the 'bietch', the homemaker, hardworker, the steely eyed observer at work who takes her job seriously, the animal lover, oooooooooooooohhhhhhhhhhhh I loveeeee seeing puppies and kitties (ok, and snakes and hamsters), the cold dispassionate person who thinks logicall-mathematically, the scattered ADHD person hopping around in each other area, the woman who is a 'baby geek'...loves computers and am curious about them...and can get VERY FRUSTRATED by them. (like when I lost ALL my music in one moment, aackk).
And, while I can be a steely eyed observer in security, show me a cute puppy and I go all cutesy...and still be observing...just oohing and ahhing...(like women do of babies me thinks)...
I look at myself as more complex than any one personality or one thing. In non-linear things I am not at all linear, but, get me hooked on a math problem and I am. Get me hooked on a social problem and I go through a milliondifferent files of related things.
I am a music lover, an art lover, a photographer, a driver, a sit on the beach and ponder love, a sit and cry over the losses during life.
Some people have said I am different than they first thought...meaning, sweet and innocent...yeah, right. Then, later, when they get to know me, am more blunt, humorous, irreverent, dryish humor, sensitive, deep thought kind of person. There is an initial reluctance to share too much too soon. Break them in slowly is how I term it.Feel them out, etc.
As for people I have known for years and years...I am the same person...and when depressed can become more so of the above, yet, without the hope and the love for life. Meaning I think way too much, too deeply, about things that have no consequence. I take things to heart too much, too easily. I 'can be' a bietch, irritable, frustrated, glaring, person under certain situations and conditions...yet, once away from them can loosen up...(hence the jekyll, hyde persona some here see in their DSO's). And, once over the depression can be just as I am without being bietchy.
It is an ironic thought just passed through my head...
When someone is depressed and Down and they seem to be ok to happy in talking or doing something with someone else that is taken with suspicion and non-understanding.
When someone is happy and they seem bietchy for some reason, for short while, it can be dismissed by saying...oh, she's PMSing, or she is off her feed, or felt out of the wrong side of the bed...or it is just not taken that seiously...like it is normal to be in a bad mood.
Never, btw, EVER, say to anyone, depressed or not, that something they are saying that you do not like or agree with it's 'just the depression talking, or 'you must be having PMS', or any number of things...it devalues the person as a whole, invalidates them and their feelings.
It would be like saying to you, 'oh, what you are feeling is nothing, it is just the bad relationship talking'....
Yes, I see many people with many different personalities depending on who they are dealing with, what they are doing, etc.
I see the teacher, all profession like, on time off (not out) being all fun and wild, or very serious and sensitve. I see the coworker who, at work, seems so relaxed and unflappable, become emotional on some days or times or during different discussions.
Does my depression bring more things out than any other persona, sure. Most of us keep our darkest feelings, emotions, needs, and thoughts, hidden from public view. We keep the smiling affable persona out there for other peoples, as well as our own, comfort. So, when depressed, certain feelings come out more easily...since I am usually dwelling on them anyway...and my resistence is low to keep them under wraps...and I am in just a pissy, irritable mood anyway that I can't be bothered to worry about it.
I have not yet met, nor doubt I ever will, anyone who is solely linear with there personality...not even many of the software engineers I have met...we all have many sides to us.
With me, I say, either embrace the different sides of my personality or stay away from it when you dislike something I say or believe or feel.
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