Thanks for your insight, daml.

Both of my boys are reading the book now. I like your idea of using the questions as a broad scope of what relationships should be like.

And if our relationship does not work out, perhaps I'll find some comfort knowing that most of couples in a similar situation found they were happier when they left. Not the answer I was looking for.

I'm finding out some new things about myself like why I struggle with invisibilty and occasional self destructive thoughts. I'm going to ask the therapist about setting a goal for myself to work on this.

Is your wife a woman of deep faith?