I am yet another wife whose husband has told her "I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore." This was dropped on me after about 9 months of me knowing that something was wrong, and him saying he did, too, but didn't know what it was. He could have told me, but he said he chose not to because he didn't want to hurt me. He doesn't verbally abuse me, he just doesn't do much toward me at all. No affection, unless it is to return one of my hugs or kisses. This all sucks. I feel devalued and my husband, with his lact of affection and emotion toward me, is eating away at my self-esteem. And, I have to say, this particular topic started by DAML, is not encouraging at all. If this isn't the "depression talking" then it must be real. And if that is so, why am I staying around? Why isn't it possible to get back the loving husband I had before? The man who I truly believed loved me more than anyone ever could?

This makes me depressed.