Confused99,

Is your husband in therapy and on meds? Remember each situation is different. The meds I'm on allow for some clarity that through therapy it has been identified that I have some relationship problems with my wife. Problems I did not know existed but they were there. That compounded with depression, being "not in-love" has plenty of opportunity to exist.

So now the question is "not in-love" real? After couples therapy and our own individual therapy will these feelings continue to exist? Please let be clear that these statements I have made are not haphazard. They have been formulated with months and months of much soul searching and with a therapist to keep me in check.

Telling my wife these things hurt. Hurt like no other hurt I ever felt. She is the love of my life. She always will be whether we stay together or not.

I am sorry. All of this is painful.
daml