Red,

I understand and appreciate your comments, and agree to a point. I stayed involved in the beginning to get him into therapy. I'm the one who was able to figure out he was D and encouraged him to go to therapy. He has no friends and I'm the only one who was there to listen to him and support him. Over the months he has told me many things about his therapy and the happenings in his life, and has sent out plenty of mixed messages. Believe me, at many points it would have been a helluva lot easier to just leave him out there on his own, but simply as a caring human I can't stand the thought of anyone out there all alone. And it's even harder when the person you have to abandon is the one who told you it felt like you were together in another lifetime and that he'd wished we'd met 20+ years ago, when we were growing up in the same state.

So what you are advocating -- if I'm reading it correctly -- is just leaving a depressed person completely alone, even if they have no other source of friendship or support?

Not that I have any intention of contacting him for the time being.