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Re: Want to know what depression is like? - Part I
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Thanks for you input.. After I wrote this I did take some time..to read the boundries.. I found it very interestering..and frankly frightening.. I think me and my DH without knowing have broken alot of the boundries...
What I meant about the hungry children was metaphorical.. in its being.. I just meant that I feel and think very deeply..I dont worry about much of anything these days but getting better for myself and my family.. and doing whatever it is that will make that transistion the best for everyone..the most healthly desiscions..
I think my DH would do wonderful to come here and learn.. He could use a good place for info.. as most of the boards we used to attend are not getting much action these days..
"""Don't count on either his feedback or your interpretation of his feedback while you are D. He may say its enough, and that might be true for now, but it will not always be the case. It's possible he may be giving you pleasantries because he is afraid real feedback would devastate you even more, or cause fights. You need to address this before its too late, before you believe your Depressed Aura is enough to save your marriage. It's not. You are lucky to have this man -- for now.""""
You are correct I am very fortunate to have him... and I know that there is so much truth behind those statements.... We have alot of work to do in the area of boundries.. this is a totally new area for us.. Actually this is the first I have really heard of them.. You read lots of books on depression.. None really tell you how to help the ones that are helping the ones who arent depressed.. ITs such a great subject. The effects can be devistating , lifedraining.. and this I KNOW!!! I cant say that my DH will leave me.... He is just not that type of person.. however....... I can see my depression draining him of the life we have together.. and I dont want that for him... He deserves a better life.....
what fears me most my new friend..... the truth.... have we based our last few years of our relationship and our life on my depression on a somewhat codependant unhealthy relationship that we cannot come up from.. I know there is more to the boundries than this.. but to kind of sum it up... the short of it is just that... He depends on me needing him and in turn it drains him.. and I do not know how to function at times without leaning on him... He is all we have.sometimes.. and its very difficult for him.. ... So I wonder..... and fear....... the worst.... all the what ifs....
To answer your question no I am not in psychotherapy... I am not in any therapy.. I went to outpatient therapy a few years ago when i was deeply depressed and suicidal.. I am On medication.. and do take care of myself... and see my pdoc regularly.... we talk ... when we see each other... I have seen two counselors... I have a difficult time with the one hour a week....with someone I dont know or feel comfortable with or feel like they even care.. so far the only one ive felt comfortable talking to is my pdoc.. shes wonderful.. and takes the time to talk .. and doesnt limit.. me.. even if really its not her thing..
Its also difficult for me being BP.... because there are so many times when i am doing well... stable and happy... depression isnt usually my thing.. just the winter months hit me hard.. and for some reason this winter was bad.. who wants to go see someone when most of the year your feeling happy and well adjusted...
all i know is I do need to do something for the times im not well..
DId i mention what a great board this is??? **grins** I love how it has input from the other side... it truly helps...
thanks so much for listening...
flygirl
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