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Hi DAML,
I've read the message board often but never actually written anything. I just wanted to say a huge thankyou. I'm in the process of splitting up with my DH after 5 years of marriage (7 yrs together). Everything you wrote I can identify with. Unfortunately DH is still in the denial phase. He has finally started taking medication but refuses to go to therapy therefore not addressing the real problem.
It's very sad for me right now as he blames his problems on our marriage not working out over the last 12 months. He won't accept the fact that he hasn't worked for a lot longer than that.
Every 3 months or so there is an 'incident' mostly connected to a huge drinking bout - this has happened for over 6 years. It's asthough he was trying to push me so that I would end things. The end came 2 months ago when I asked him to leave for a few days. He now says that it's over and that he can't take the unhappiness he's found himself in.
I feel very hurt, angry and rejected especially as I know that this has happened before in other relationships and will happen again.
The part about sex really hit home. I've hardly had a sex life for years. The feeling of rejection has been overwhelming sometimes. I don't understand why he doesn't want me. I keep asking what I've done wrong or what changed.
This isn't going to be a happy every after story but I've done everything I can - I can't make him better and I can't keep looking after him. I just wish that he would go for some kind of help but he's not going to.
How can he still say he loves me but isn't willing to do that one small thing to save our marriage?
It's only been 2 months since we split up and some days I wake up and feel fantastic - like a huge weight has been lifted from me. Other days I feel that life is hopeless and that even when it was really bad I'd prefer to have him back. I know that time will heal me but I need a way to get over the love and anger feel towards him - any ideas?
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