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My soon-to-be-ex has been showing a side of him that honestly, I have NEVER seen. He is just bitter and mean within the last 2 - 3 weeks


I have noticed my xdbf acting bitter and mean with strangers and other friends but not with me. During the peak of his MDE, he normally cuts off all contact with me and just becomes a mean and hollow person. For example, once my sister bumped into him at a mall and they decided to have lunch at the foodcourt. During that time, he kept making nasty comments at everyone who passed their table with crude and offensive language and kept chain smoking. My sister was bewildered because this was totally unlike him and left as soon as she finished her food. When I mean totally out of character, I mean a guy who talks like a stodgy news anchor suddenly starts talking like he is trailer trash, making rude and obscene comments of strangers which were totally uncalled for. There are many other incidents like these which I have heard about from mutual friends, but he has never showed me this side of him personally.

This is typically the peak of his MDE and he comes rolling down the hill 2-3 weeks later. My xdbf is not on meds and wont go to therapy either, so I think it is a characteristic of D rather than a side effect to meds.