Hi Hope

I too have had a similar thing happen with my XDH. I think it comes with the realization that we are moving on from them. As long as we are jumping through hoops for them they have the power, they control the situation. But when we finally say enough and no longer have the energy to fight for them, they know that their hold on us is weak if not completely gone.
We have given up on them, even though they kept pushing us away, I don't think that they ever really thought that we would throw in the towel.

Hench the anger and nastiness b/c we where suppose to love them no matter what.

When my XDH told me last week that he had never loved me and that I was the worst lover he had ever had. I turned around and said to him "And thats suppose to mean something to me?" I think he was shocked that saying those things really didn't hurt me anymore. He lost his power and it seems to have scared him!

Anyway thats just my thoughts on this sort of thing, It's not the meds but them reacting to our really moving on without them.
QT