Hope - When I read the exchange you described about the paperwork I could have inserted many couples that have gone through a divorce (no d. involved). In general, Divorce doesn't bring out the finer points of personalities on either side. People get angry when they realize their marriage has failed. People try to pretend that they are indifferent in front of the soon to be ex-spouse when they are dying inside. You could be seeing typical reactions that are being amplified because of dh's diminished capacity to cope with the emotional stress and anxiety. Hiker