Hope,

I'm sorry this has been so difficult for you recently and well... all along. It's a lot to endure and I know it's painful for you. I'm glad you're posting here and getting some of this out of your system as it's a lot to process.
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You just don't get it. I do want the ball and string, it's true. If I can't have the ball and string then I'll take a woman part time.

Hope, of course I haven't read that string of emails that led to this comment, but when I read this, I wondered if he meant that he wants the "ball and string" meaning he wants the "ball and chain" of marriage. But, if he can't have that, he will have a part-time relationship. I realize this is not what you were referring to in your prior email to him, it just struck me that way given how his email reads.

I understand the desire at some point to just get it over with but I can speak from personal experience that divorce does not cause the pain to cease and desist once the decree is signed. Unfortunately, it just doesn't work that way.

Is this guy sure he wants this divorce? You wrote that you are going through this with a broken heart. Are you sure you want this divorce?

I'm not saying what you should or should not do. It's a big decision either way. It could be a hard road either way. I believe you are strong and will ultimately be ok. I don't have the answer about what is right for you, but it gives me pause when you write about doing "what he wants"... Are you certain you even know what he wants? Have you asked him? What do you want?

Just think it over...

Hugs,
SPO