I agree with Epona. We are who we are at a certain point in time based on what has happened to us up until that time.

I sometimes watch Dr. Phil and he has a saying that I find very true: you did the best you could with what you knew at the time.

It's only when people refuse to change after being told something new or shown a new way that a problem emerges. So ... if each of us didn't learn something from our DP's crisis, then yes, it would be a problem. But, based on the amount of self-reflection I have witnessed on this board, each of us will emerge from this experience a changed person ... for the better.

JMHO.;)