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He said, "Did you cut all that up?" I told him yes. "With the circular saw?" I told him yes. He smiled and said "hmmm."


This is actually a symptom of my husbands depression; everything became my job....from mowing the lawn to taking out the garbage to chainsawing down an overhanging limb, it all became my job. It got to the point that he was calling me from work asking whether or not I took out the garbage. Nevermind that we have a 13yo boy in the house or that these chores added to my own chores and the complete task of raising our children and caring for my then dying father and mother.....well. it was just too much. Slowly I've thrown his work back onto him, I had found that he'd express frustration that he couldn't get to this project or that project because he had to blow leaves or mow or whatever....I'd automatically jump to attention because afterall he's depressed. What I was doing was taking the very things that keep him from actually delegating to his children and or completing the tasks that are required of him. I expected him to get overwhelmed, I expected his tasks to make him more depressed and so I feel it was my reactions to his ineptitude at that time that was actually keeping him where he was.

I know how to uses a chainsaw
I know how to use a snowblower
Iknow how to use a plate leveler
I know how to use a ditchwitch
I know how to use a circular saw
I know how to use a screw gun
I know how to use a powersander
I know how to mow
I know how to do

I just didn't know how to get out of the way of myself