Since I've blown up and confronted my DH about his verbal abuse of me and our children he has now started to taut me with other comments. For example when disciplining the kids he now makes side comments like "Did I say that nice enough for you!" Or "You better take care of that, because I'm too mean." or "I don't talk to them right." Although he is not using profanity the words are meant to hurt and manipulate. I tend to turn out his comments, however the children don't have this ability.