Falloutspouse - I am in the same boat as you. We are now going thru a divorce but ever since I agreed to the divorce, he makes alot of snide remarks to me - he is downright mean and condenscending, and of coarse, I react. I am trying to get a better handle on how I react. Very confusing, I give him what he wants (the divorce) and he turns into more of an ass on me. I often think the same thing as you...is he really ill with depression or is he just a cold-bastard?