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I think that when the language starts to become degrading is when the abuse starts.


Not always. Here's are examples of verbal abuse, without a hint of degradation:

"I'm going to take the children, you're never going to see them ever again!"

"You never contributed a dime and you are a lousy parent to boot!"

"I know you're having an affair--there's no way you can afford ANYTHING without MY paycheck!"