Makes sense to put your dream job first since they do not come often and it IS there for you...and in the present. While he gets himself together, and the distance is safe for him...he can figure himself out, figure what he wants, and you can do so too.
It is good this occurred now...rather than five years in when you are bankrupt, two kids at your heels, and he is hiding under the bed.
Maybe a harsh picture...but, look around...is not far fetched.
Love is wonderful...but, if it were so great all those married to alcoholic, abusive men would have been able to handle it, right? They would have been able to handle the financial disaster the DUI's created, the death of another individual at their spouses hands behind the wheels, and the mistrust and all that goes along with loss, grief.

I Became Insane
With Horrible
Intervals of Sanity

E.A. Poe