Thaks for the post, Wasfunonce. It was helpful. I have actually read it before, and it was helpful then, as well.

I wonder--would our DSOs be pushing us away if they weren't in some form of denial or were really committed to working toward their wellness?
Well, my Df is on meds and going to T. But in some ways, I feel like he is staying sick, partially because he really feels like he can't get better (he has told me this), and partially because remaining sick means he does not have to deal with anything else in his life. Does that make sense? It's like when you have a bruise and you keep pressing on it. I feel like that's what he's doing. It feels bad to him, but maybe feels a little good too. Again, someone who has D would have much better insight into this than me. I heard a song the other day and thought of Df...It's by a band called Death Cab for Cutie, and it's called Marching Bands of Manhattan...the verse says..

"Sorrow drips into your heart, through a pinhole, just like a faucet that leaks and there is confort in the sound. And while you debate half empty or half full, it slowly rises, your love is gonna drown."

I think great, who would want to be out with sad mopey Jen.
I get this...bu tthe thing is, although around others I might have to hide my emotions, around Df, I have always felt comfortable. He's different. And we know eachother so well. That's why he can't hide the D from me, just like yours can't from you. And that's OK. I have told him this...I don't know how to get it through to him, I love hom nomatter how depressed his mood is!

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