fullcircle210 wrote:
I don't know how to get it through to him, I love hom nomatter how depressed his mood is!

Boy is that the million dollar question. If I could only say something to my DH and actually have him believe it(like T would help, or Meds would help, I'm here for you, ect...the list could go on and on). I agree not having them understand is very frustrating. I guess I have accepted that is part of the D. It's like I have this shirt and no matter what anyone tells me I think it makes me look fat so I don't believe anyone else. It's kinda like that mentality. They ahve this faulty thinking and no matter how much effort we put into it we probably can't change that thinking. So I guess I do the things I can do for my DH to show him I love him. Sometimes that means leaving him alone and respecting his wishes because if I don't leave him alone then he really isn't going to come to me and talk when he needs to. And when he comes out of his lows he does tell me how he appreciates that I stopped pushing at him. My DH knows I will be there when he wants help but he ahs to want it and figure it out himself. And for me, someone who is a rescuer by natre, it's one of the hardest things to do, but I know it;s what he needs right now. yes it stinks. Yes I want him to lean on me, but for whatever reason he feels he needs to do this himself, and part of me gets that.