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I like all your boundaries. I'm not a parent, but I think that if I was, those are the ones I would pick. I know people say that boundaries are for you not other people, so maybe we can call these guidelines. . . .(my rules are he has to take medication, since the D and OCD are so severe and hereditary and he has to go back to T if I notice the start of a downward spiral. so they are very similar.)
You can't control his actions, but you can say what is and what is not acceptable too you. it sounds like he is verys sweet and needy, yet also pushes to get what he wants (hence the moving back home) so you will have to be firm about how the situation will work. I don't know how he will react to this--maybe he will feel like he is not in control of the situation. when you talk I would make it clear that the two of you are fighting this disease, and since you are the healthier partner right now, it makes sense for you to have input in this sort of thing.
as for working--I know that depends on the person, but if he is getting beter, as he says he is, then theoretically a sign of that would be holding down a job. my husband isi more of a workaholic when he's sick, so I don't really have advice about this. I would say though, that a job that he is capable of doing but challenging might be best, so that he stays focused and engaged in it.
and don't be too alarmed if people on this board disagree with your email. you did what was right for you and your children given your relationship and your family. everyone will have different opinions and different experiences.
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