I really am boggled by the mater of fact attitude of I'm coming home now.


The hubris is kind of breath-taking, isn't it? As though you get no say in the matter.

Legally, you do have a say, correct? I mean, he officially resides elsewhere, right?

I can make it with out him. These last few months have prove that I am strong enough. However, a healthy intact family is my first choice.


Congratulations! I suspect that is part of why you were able to think it through and send such a well thought out e-mail, with boundaries that work for your family. (But I doubt he'd honour the meetings part, that is a *touch* heavy-handed/top-down. But I totally understand the sentiment and your reasons for putting it within the e-mail. That's more about controlling him--no matter how well-meaning and informed. Picky, picky, I know.) I doubt he's quite figured that out, yet.

Honestly though, you sound less and less happy with this scenario. If there's any way you can say, "No. You can't stay here." and make it stick, I would do it. Otherwise it'll set you back.

Does he have any other friends or family in the area? What about his finding an inexpensive hotel or something?

Ghada