You absolutely must set the boundaries for his return to your home.

The safety and welfare of the children and of you come first. I was faced with a similar situation (no kids but he wanted to come home) and I can tell you that it was the hardest decision I ever made. As much as I missed him and wanted him home with me, I knew if I didn't set conditions it would have been disastrous for me and would not have helped him at all. We would have been right back where we were.

Of course he would not agree to any condition and so was not allowed home. He wouldn't even go to a Doctor. He has gone downhill since and is living on the street and I am sad about that. Sometmes I even allow myself to feel a twinge of guilt that if only I had let him come home he wouldn't be in this condition. But I quickly snap out of it. I know only HE can fix this.

Please stay strong, you are doing the right thing. Let us know how this turns out.

Punky

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