Thanks all for the encouragement!
I've been strong while he has been out of my daily life. I am a little impressed myself. BUT...I do recognize I'm in for the challenge of my life when he comes home. Out of the house and 2,000 miles away thats easy. Dealing with things again on a daily basis scares the crap out of me. The prospect of ending things, if necessary once back home is very unsetteling. He can be extremely passive aggressive with me. Many times since his departure last August we would have a situation -big deal or no big deal- where I thought we were on the same page of aggreement and whamo his actions proved he never intended to go along with the plan. I'll give an idea about xyz he nods and says uh huh and he does the opposite. There is much there in the way of a healthy disagreement. I realise by letting him back home thinking he will comply I'm taking a risk that he won't follow through.

Am I as strong as I've been? We shall see.