Ann Lee

I SO agree with your points here. As the patient myself I am HORRIBLE with someone forcing boundaries on me. I have my issues. I admit that. I have my worries. I admit that. I have some morals/values/character flaws that might send the average person running for the hills. I admit that too. BUT

And this is a big BUT....

NO ONE likes anything forced on them regardless of your mental health status. I know I need boundaries and that I cross them way too often but coming to me with a contract is like waving a red flag in front of a bull. There is no way in H*LL I would concur to sign anything. If my word is not good enough too bad, I have to accept yours...

And I agree that even if I signed the dotted line what is in my heart doesn't necessarily reflect that. I mean we all sign some kind of contract in life, be it a marraige license or whatever and how many marriages go to h*ll in a hand basket for one reason or another. We made that promise and signed that contract to be there for always and all that stuff that goes with it but we never as human predict what will happen we only hope for the best.

I agree we all need bounaries and that they need to be set to protect all involved but a written contract is no better than its intentions. I say sit down and talk it out - find a mutual ground and what is acceptable to both of you - if that is not possible someone needs to go - and only you know who that really is....

Just my 2 cents worth....Gods Speed.........AP