In addition to my xBPH, I have been very close to 3 other people with BP, so my experience is not just limited to one person. The contract/agreement is to capture in writing what both parties are agreeing to as far as unacceptable behavior and consequences. This can be necessary if one of the parties is prone to memory lapses. In our case, my ex would sit and calmly agree to boundaries only to swear later that the discussions never took place so he couldn't be held accountable for violating them. And, he would also swear that I had agreed to things that were never discussed. They were things he wanted me to agree to but he never actually brought up. In bringing up the contract, I tried to offer up an alternative that might be useful for "Wasfunonce" and her BPH. Instead I've succeeded in upsetting AnnLee and PowerBoop which was not my intention. I've also succeeded in making myself feel sick in reliving the memories of the past, so with that, it's time for me to say goodbye.