Idluv - RE: There are so many things in it that echo my own sentiments towards my dso. If you don't mind, I may be using some of your letter for myself. I've been drafting one for dso but I'm taking my time to make sure I capture everthing I'm thinking.

I am hoping you will be ok with me asking some questions. Please don't feel pressured or obligated to answer, if it doesn't feel comfortable to answer on the board - you can just ask and answer to yourself and maybe they will help with clarity when drafting your letter.

1) Have you journaled these sentiments yet - rather than putting them into letter format?
2) What is the purpose of the letter? (Why are you writing it?)
3) What do you hope to achieve?
4) What message do you want your dso to get?
5) What do you want your dso to understand?
6) what do you hope your DSO will understand about you?
7) What is your desired outcome after he has read the letter?
8 ) Why are you writing to him, rather than speaking to him face to face? What stops you from being able to verbalize your sentiments directly?
Do you have any fears about speaking which are removed by the act of writing, rather than speaking?
9) What do you want to convey to him? (e.g. how you feel, or a boundary, or what?)
10) What message will DSO get, what will DSO perceive, how will DSO feel about the fact that you are writing to them rather than speaking with them face to face? Will it be they perceive what you want them to perceive by your words - or feel what you want them to feel? ..... infact that leads to another question...
11) How do you want your DSO to feel after reading your letter?
12) How would you feel if they sent the same letter to you?