fullcircle:
Requesting some information here for the purpose of more clarity. You say:
First he cancelled wedding. Then he decided he wasn't moving here. Then he questioned if he wanted to be with me. Then he wanted a break. Now he wants to pull away further.If my memory serves me correctly - often it doesn't, so please feel free to correct me. But from other posts the impression I got, was that the decisions about postponing the wedding and the move were actually joint ones. I think you actually said "We decided to postpone the wedding."

I wonder if due to the emotional stress and pain you are currently experiencing that you are also falling into some patterns of thinking which are foremostly not very helpful to you....but are very common in fallout.