Hi Epona,

Thank you for pointing this out. Your question really made me think about my situation and what part we both had in making the desions above.

The wedding and moving were joint decisions...kind of... cancelling the wedding and him deciding to move here were not what I wanted at all. It was more of a means of doing the right thing for him, given the circumstances, but I am still very sad that neither of those are happening. Does that make sense? So yes, Those decisions were made together, but I only took part in them, given that I really didn't think I had a choice.

As far as wanting to be with me or taking a break, and changing our current situation so that I barely ever see him, those were all totally his decisions.

I saw my therapist today and he agreed that relationships are not unilateral and that it was time for me to put my foot down. He did, however say, that he thinks I went to the extreme by breaking up with him and packing all his stuff, especially since breaking up is not necessarily what either of us want.
He is still here and we are really talking a lot and working on things. I will update more later.