I agree with AnnLee on this--your decision is really the best thing you can do for yourself and for your children. It may not be the best situation for your husband, but he is the one who put your in this position--telling you that he is returning rather than discussing things and insisting that you will just have to deal with his decision. so as far as I'm concerned, since he hasn't shown that he is taking your feelings or your children's into regard, you need to do what's best for the children. The situation stinks, but I do think I would make the same decision.