Blue star, so sorry this brought up a big messy memory! I most definitely did not mean to start a major debate. Your opinion and experience as a supporter is valuable.

Its clear there is both sides of the fence represented here today. Human nature has it that no one wants to be backed in a corner...if so we will most likely come out fighting.
Annlee, I have said it before and will again...your pursuit of wellness is amazing. I think I understand where you and power boop are coming from. This just sucks. The nature of the disease wreaks such a havoc. No one likes to be told what to do and to him thats exactly what I'm doing. As hard as it was for him to hear it was hard for me to draw the line that way.

I waited and waited for 5 months hoping he would desire and seek wellness on his own. To be honest, I was trying to avoid conflict with him--that was a relational pattern--you know pick your battles. I didn't want to be the one to draw that kind of line in the sand--it would be easier for me if I didn't have to. Standing up for myself and what I felt is right takes a lot of will and determination.

Well, anyway...we had a good talk today--he said he would agree to the above letter including doing daily mood logs. His pdoc recommended them last may, but now he said "I think that could be helpful." Wonders of mercy.....

Blue star, thanks for your advise...he even agreed to the put it in writing. If he isn't placating me it seems to me he has been away from home long enough to see what he truly wants. Time will tell. I'm not fooling myself. He could get here and say "what agreement?" Do I say I'm throwing in the towel for he will surely not be able to do this? Or do I take it one day at a time and adjust my plan if it doesn't work out? If he is really willing to try, so am I.

Buckle up, its going to be a bumpy ride!!!image Thank you all so much for the support and continuing to come back to help the Freshman, soon to be Sophomore, class! WFO