Wow...I can sense how uneasy you are about him returning. I really need to go and read your history, because I am not sure what happened in the past.

I think it's good that you are setting boundaries, but how about setting compromises and discussing with him what he is comfortable with as well...would you be comfortable with any compromises at all, say three groups a week instead of 5? I am in no way an expert on this, my own situation has been a mess, but just a suggestion.

You sound like you are so strong woman...you know what you want...but do you want him to come home? You sound kind of uneasy about it...then again, I don't know the history so maybe you have good reason for him leaving in the first place...I will continue to read your updates and check in on you...and good luck...