from my understanding.....he cares about her.....he considers her a friend...but NOT romantically involved...
sister LOVES her....and has been rude to me at the store ....and obviously through conversation with
X figured out her feelings and is trying to force a rekindle....

soooooooooooooooo, what happens here...should T forfeit his holiday dinner with relatives for his
sisters actions....or go and be pleasant and again confirm to the X that this is a done deal....