TC
Doesn't it make you wonder, which was the cart and which was the horse?
How many of us are in the first, second, third, or tenth relationship of this kind, but, don't realize it, yet...?
May not even be a lover relationship we are trying to heal, yes, am going to say it...may be a familial one, or worse yet...one between ourselves.
But, more likely than not...we are replaying the roles we missed out on with our families...not just one particular person, though one will be primary, but, many small and larger roles we missed due to our families issues...they snowball down the mountain (appropriate for the time of year) only getting greater and more painful as time goes on...
For those who will say, 'no it doesn't'...then, I guess there is nothing to worry about with your kids...we all grew up in 'wonderful' homes from 1950's television that were sweet and sentimental and never wrong...or had any negative outcomes.

Oh, we are definately missing something...and we will continue the cycle of distrust, sabotage, fear, etc. in this life...
I often wonder if we will in the lives of our children..and if we will in our next life, if you believe in that...?

I Became Insane
With Horrible
Intervals of Sanity

E.A. Poe