TC wrote, "Wouldn't it be nice not to have to question...to just know that things are right??"

Yes I know just what you mean TC... but can you ever 'know'? I don't think so.

I think the thing we have to 'know' beyond doubt, is that we can survive, and thrive on the other side of, another relationship failure... if that should happen.

That's why I keep rejecting Nice Tool Box Men.. I'm not fully confident that I won't revert back into that woman I was 2 years ago...the tortured insecure fool, who second guesses and self doubts each time the phone doesn't ring. Better to make sure the phone doesn't ring in the first place... that way i can delude myself into thinking i flicked them away because they were too needy...or not strong enough... or wanted to fix too many things.

99% of the time, I think I am a changed person... strong and secure now. But I'm not ready to challenge the 1% of doubt just yet.

And as Lynne said... "the harder i work on issues...the longer they stay around!!!!!!!
i am honestly tired of working on ME!!!!!!!

I absolutely agree! Which is another reason to put off testing the new me! New boots easier to handle than new man anyway!