MSOI....

LET GO .. AND TAKE THE RISK!!!

That doesnt mean you have to have let him straight in ... little by little...see how it goes..
YOU can be in the drivers seat here if you want to..
IF.. you end up wanting to keep dating him.. set some ground rules..

I have a friend here in Aus that broke up with long time partner last January.... and she recently started dating a guy.. (well they havnt spent one night alone in the 7 weeks since they met... NOW... shes understanding how wrong for her that was... and NOW if she says to him.. ummm sorry I need a night or two alone each week.. shes worried he will be thinking she no longer wants to be with him.. DUH!!!

MSOI... just go .. be yourself.. (extra pounds and all.. he may have put on 20 !! and who cares) ..
I think Once you know that you can be happy alone.. then finding someone to share that 'happy ' with . is the next step..
You are grounded... you basically KNOW what you want.. this bloke may be very happy to have the sort of relationship that allows both of you to have SPACE and independence that has lots of trust in it..

Good luck .... hope it goes well if you decided to take the risk..

big huggs.. from your mate down here with you ! lol..
Ange

Take  what  you  need . . .  leave  the  rest .Blue_butterfly