MSOI, go on the date and enjoy it! I am happy for you. I agree with Punky. You have been knocked sideways and that's why you are nervous. Who cares about the 13 pounds. Just be you. He likes you for you.

Sometimes we want things to work out so badly that we are worried about every little thing that can go wrong. Let go of the idea that things need to be perfect for it to work. And, let go of the idea that if it doesn't work, it would be because of something you did or didn't do. In my opinion, the perfection of life is in its imperfections. Relax and enjoy.

For me, still sorting through seeing xbf this past Friday for the first time in a year and a half. I wanted to marry him, and he wanted to marry me. There was no good reason for us to separate which is difficult, even after a year and a half. Unfortunately we each were so worried about things being perfect that it didn't work and we were worn out. I suppose it will make a good story one day--"the one that got away." Sometimes wonderful people individually don't make a wonderful couple, no matter how you work at it. Or so I tell myself

"If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten."