Thanks so much for writing. I went away for the weekend and so needed it. I feel somewhat recharged now and my DH seems a little more like himself. I will ask him to let me know when he is ready to talk, but my fear is he never will. He took AD awhile back, but didn't like the way they made him feel (i think he tried two different ones) and now swears he will never take them again. We went to counseling when we first got married and he never talked at all during the 2-3 months we were going. He was a good listener and would talk to me about it once we got home, but really wouldn't say anything to the counseler. I don't know if it is a good idea or bad, but I thought once I felt stronger and he seemed in a better place, maybe I could talk to him about how this can effect our daughter (not to mention how it has effected me) and maybe he would consider the meds. again. Can you explain to me how you set up bounderies with your DH, so not to get effected by the negativity and the anger...I so need help with this. Thanks for all your help!