I guess before we had our daughter I had the time to be more sensitive and knew this wasn't "normal" for him and I felt sorry for his sadness, etc. Now, that we've been dealing with this for 6+ years and we have a toddler...I have grown impatient and now react to the things he says. I've been reading and reading and attempted to go see a therapist a few months ago, but right off the back she said Divorce and that just turned me off. I don't know how to approach talking to my DH at all about this, because every time I do he gets angry. I feel like I can't be the only one who is trying to get help. I wonder if approaching it that this can effect our daughter might spark something for him to want to do something.

One thing that I am learning from all this is to start doing for myself and things that make me happy. I feel like I have got lost in all this and have forgotten what makes me happy.

I think your technique makes sense, but every time I try to talk to my husband he just sits and says nothing. If he does say anything it usually turns into tears and anger and then he ask me to leave him alone. Luckily, I am starting to see glimpses of my DH coming out of this bout...he actually hugged me goodbye this morning and it was so nice to feel a little back to normal?

Does your DW know that you have read these books and seek help from the message board, books, and therapists?