i think i have to believe he fell out of love with me... and even if he's not dating someone new, he's chosen his "new life"... and has basically ditched the last three years, not even acknowledging that we were together. i agree with you carrrie, it'd be easier to say it's the D instead of falling out of love. up until the day he expressed his first desire to leave the relationship, he had me believing things were great. i often struggle with the question of- was he a jerk and hid this personality side for three years, or was this depression that finally erupted??? nothing's changed for me with my ex. i believe since he's erased me so obviously from his life, that i have no choice but to try and try to do the same.