Strongernow I keep coming back to this site and reading posts looking for stories to reaffirm what I have experienced so that I can say it was depression. And when I'm feeling calm and less emotional about what has happened, I can really see that the extreme changes in our dbf behaviors had to be triggered by a mental illness. One minute they are in love and the next minute they need to run away. The fact that this behavior is so extreme and out of character from who these people were leads me to believe it is a result of a mental illness. Even if they find the "love of their life" from everything I read from Anne's books and this site, the new relationship is a fling for excitement. Anyway these poor women are getting involved with men with a serious illness. So as everyone says on this site we have to take care of ourselves. This is one of the most painful things I ever had to deal with. I have had relationships end in the past, but I always new it was going down a bad path so there were no surprizes - in fact it was more relief. This story I am now experiencing really came out of left field. It is going to be hard to trust again, if I ever put my heart out there. I always felt so lucky to have such a great guy in my life - I guess I spoke too soon. Please take care of yourself and don't feel alone in this.