Nothing has changed- I still haven't heard again from DXBF, but- I guess like you all have helpfully pointed out when I feel calm and rational about the situation, I see D as the culprit and accept it. But, lots of time has passed and I know that I don't "know him" anymore... I'm not privy to information anymore. But I'd like to know for those who talk about the D significant other disappearing and then coming back is- in terms of hoping/trying/wanting to keep a connection to- the D individual.... did you have to make the effort yourself- instead of hoping/relying on the D person to come back to you/make the effort to communicate? What I mean is- if I keep waiting and hoping that my dxbf will face the situation/reality and reach out to talk to me again- I guess after 6-7 weeks of nothing, I don't have much faith that it will never happen if I rely on him to be the one to make the effort. If I didn't think/know it was D that affected this entire breakup, I would be more likely to accept the rejection and see it as he hates me. I'm not talking about getting back together, I'm talking about friendship, connecting- trying to salvage something from a relationship with someone I thought was my best friend for three years.

... I don't know what I'm going to do yet- but I'm just curious for opinions of those who have been there- did you act to make the effort into maintaining a connection/relationship- even after you were "rejected" for whatever reason?

Thank you in advance.