Thanks for the advice Ash. Your strategy sounds better than what I did (blurting out that I thought he was depressed in the middle of an argument). Unfortunately we are separated right now so I have less opportunity to talk to him about it. I really wish that I had found this board sooner before things got so out of control between us. I have been so worried that he was going to just shut me out completely that I have been reluctant to push the issue but I will have to keep trying.